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Created to help you understand the family court process at your own pace, we provide clear and accessible legal information, wellbeing tools and guidance designed with your experiences in mind. You are not alone, you deserve clarity and the confidence to be your own best advocate.
This website does not offer legal advice, but instead provides clear, accessible legal information to help you understand the law, your rights, your options, and the steps ahead. If you're not sure where to begin, try one of our step-by-step flowcharts, myth-busting pages, or interactive tools to help you feel more in control. We recognise that legal processes don't happen in a vacuum, they're happening in your life, so you’ll also find wellbeing support, videos, and creative resources to help you stay grounded during difficult times.
While we are based in Sussex, connecting you with trusted local organisations and services, we also signpost national initiatives and helplines to ensure you are not without a pathway to support.
Whether you’re still in your relationship, planning to leave, or already navigating post-separation processes, Phoenix Family Law is here to help you rise and advocate for yourself and your children on your terms.
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Common Concerns
When you're self-representing it's easy to feel overwhelmed by the formal language, letters and courtroom behaviour of legal professionals, causing stress and confusion. Understanding your rights and boundaries can help you feel more in control and confident. To ensure that family proceedings are fair, efficient and consistent, a body of rules govern how family law cases are managed and heard in the courts of England and Wales.
1. The Family Procedure Rules (FPR) set out the legal processes for issues like child arrangements, divorce, domestic abuse orders, and more.
2. Practice Directions (PDs) accompany the FPR and provide detailed guidance on how to interpret and apply the rules in practice, such as how to complete forms, prepare for hearings, or follow safeguarding steps.
Phoenix Family Law aims to better prepare you for court proceedings, at your own pace and on your own terms. To get you started, we've outlined some common concerns below.
'I feel overwhelmed. How do I start the process?'
'I have to respond to everything straight away'
'Will the judge believe me without a lawyer?'
In all circumstances, before applying to court you must show you have tried to resolve your case using non‑court dispute resolution (NCDR) in the form of mediation, arbitration or another approved method. The Family Procedure Rules 2010, Rule 3.3(1) sets out the court’s obligation to consider whether NCDR is appropriate at every stage of the proceedings. Sometimes, NCDR is not appropriate and there are special exemptions for these circumstances. If you're not sure where to start, have a look at our 'Your Options' page.
The law does not require you to respond to solicitor's letters, it is not advisable to ignore them however. A solicitor's letter may urge you to reply in a specified time frame to apply pressure for a response, however you do not legally need to respond straight away. 14 days is the customary timeframe for responding to solicitors letters, give yourself time to breathe, review and respond. Our 'Challenging Barristers & Solicitors' section provides template responses to common solicitors letters to support you through your court journey.
Judges are trained to treat Litigants in Person (people who self- represent) fairly and without bias under the Equal Treatment Bench Book directions. The law in the UK recognises your right to self-represent and family court proceedings are designed to be accessible to non-lawyers. The court has a duty to ensure that you are heard and understood, you are also entitled to ask for special measures if you are affected by trauma or abuse.
Our 'Family Court Guide' sections have information on each stage of the process, including how to fill out key court forms.